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What is Sex Therapy?

As defined by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, “Sex Therapy is a subspecialty of psychotherapy, focusing on the specific concerns related to human sexuality.” What this means is that sex therapy is talk therapy, where the issues that you talk about are sexual concerns. Sex therapists have acquired scientific knowledgeable about sexual functioning, and are trained in ways of helping people deal with sexual problems. The goal in sex therapy is for you to be fulfilled and satisfied with the sexual aspects of your life and relationships. The approach taken is guided by leading research, cultural trends, and a spiritual perspective. 

How do I know if sex therapy is right for me?
Anyone who is concerned with some aspect of their sexual experience or feelings can benefit from sex therapy.  Some issues we can help you with include: experiencing low or no sexual desire, difficulty in becoming sufficiently aroused, performance issues, worries about achieving orgasm too quickly, too slowly or not at all.  Sometimes people have concerns about what is “normal”.  

Perhaps you are a couple who are unhappy with your intimate relationship for one reason or another. Often, couples find that they have differences in their sexual desire or preferences. They may have different ideas about frequency, emotional intimacy, or sexual style. A sexual relationship that was satisfactory in the beginning may develop problems later on, as a result of children, job and life stressors, medical issues, or aging. Sometimes couples have stopped being sexual for one reason or another, and one or both would like to re-establish their physical relationship.

In general, many people struggle to communicate about sexual issues. It is a tough topic that many of us were not taught how to talk about in our developmental years. Thus, as adults communicating about sex can often feel shameful, embarrassing, and anxiety-provoking. We work with both individuals and couples to resolve these and similar issues, in order to achieve greater sexual satisfaction and intimacy.

To see a list of common concerns clients come to our practice with click HERE.

What will we do in our sessions?
Because sex therapy is essentially a specialized focus of therapy, your experience of going to a sex therapist will be very much like any other therapy experience.  We will start by discussing what issue you would like help with. You will be asked about what is happening (or not happening) now, and how you would like things to be different. We will also review a thorough sexual history.  If we are working with you as couple, we will start by meeting with both of you together, then may meet with each of you individually. It is important that we understand you, so that therapy can be tailored to meet your specific needs.

We will have clearly stated goals, and will be working to implement the specific changes that you would like in your life. Sometimes we will also communicate with other professionals involved in your care, such as your physician or other counselor. We will spend some time in the session talking about ideas and feelings about sex, but you will also have “homework assignments” that you will do in the privacy of your home. These may be written or communication exercises, behavioral interventions, or may be specific experiences that will help you to progress toward your goals.

What will NOT occur: NO nudity or sexual activity of any kind will occur in our office, nor will we see you outside the office, or ask you to video any sexual acts. Your will never be pressured to discuss anything you are not comfortable with, and all discussions will always be respectful and appropriate.

Why choose a sex therapist over another therapist?
Sex is a sensitive and personal subject.  Sex therapists specialize in the area of sex and have an specialized training and a greater comfort level in talking with you about sexual concerns.

How long will it take to resolve my sexual problems in therapy?
There are many factors to consider when coming to therapist for sexual concerns. Because of this, is it difficult to predict the length of time you will spend in therapy. After we discuss your specific concerns, we will discuss treatment and form a plan together. 

Can I use my insurance? What are the costs?
We do not accept reimbursement through health insurance. However, some insurance companies are willing to reimburse our clients a portion of the costs for each session. Our office can submit your insurance claim to your health insurance provider for reimbursement. Because sex therapy is just a specialty of psychotherapy, part of your treatment may be covered if you have mental health benefits.

There is no guarantee that the insurance provider will accept a portion or the full cost of services. Contact your insurance provider to see if they accept out-of-network provider billing statements.